You cannot take a child, emotionally speaking, where you cannot go yourself. It is of great benefit to get comfortable with emotional expression be it sadness or anger, and to be able to just “be” with a person or child in a way that invites them to experience it fully (and thereby allowing the emotional charge to dissipate) rather than dismiss, judge or try to get them to “feel better”. We can begin this by practicing on ourselves and allow ourselves the “luxury” of feeling what we feel as a discovery process rather than judging and trying to rid ourselves of it (suppressing) to help us to “feel better”. Feeling better is not the goal. “Feeling” is. So feel what you feel and encourage others in your life.
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